Thursday, September 6, 2018

RETURN TO - DEPRAVED and DEPRIVED!


RETURN TO
DEPRIVED and/or DEPRAVED




---Some folks have asked me to return to the ‘’WEST SIDE STORY’’ analogy. They feel that there is more to be said. The point to it all is the idea that for those DEPRIVED of love, support, being appreciated and valued…usually, end up living a life of DEPRAVITY. We, also, tried to define DEPRAVITY as acting negative in any sense at all, as it leads down the negative path. Those DEPRIVED of their basic human needs of love, support, being appreciated and/or valued tend to lead a life full of negativity. The RIGHT TOOL is DON'T DEPRIVE PEOPLE of this HUMAN NEED. It works much, much better for everyone...INCLUDING YOURSELF!


---It reminds me of my dad in the 1960's and 70's, warning about never trying to run the car on cheap gas. He said it will ping and eventually ruin the engine. Well, to save money, you use cheap gasoline. Lo and behold…he was right. You learn this lesson when the car is on the lift and the mechanic asks you if you have been using cheap gas? You have been caught with your hand in the cookie jar.




---ADDICTION works like this. We put the wrong items in the place that can only be filled by authentic things like love, being appreciated, etc. We run the engine on cheap gasoline that will eventually break down. We, also, find that it is NOT so easy to make the switch to a different budget. We are used to running our life with the extra money we were getting by buying the cheap gas. We have to now make ends meet on less money. We relied on cheap gas for so long. Now…it physically hurts the car to use it. The fact that it isn’t really the correct thing to use has revealed itself. The real need rears its’ head as it always does and you have found this out while using the cheap gas. At first it sort of worked, but NO MORE. It needs REAL GAS...NOT CHEAP GAS...to be satisfied. That area has been DEPRIVED for years. DEPRAVED actions (negativity) are the norm at this point. If the needs had been met right away, the path chosen for the life of the engine would have based on having the needs being met instead of the DEPRAVITY (negativity) based of that area never being properly dealt with.




---The quickest and the best way to get your needs met is to be honest with what you are doing. Using the wrong gasoline will always betray you eventually. To feel love, be loving. Be honest. Be proactive. Don’t just sit and complain how nobody cares about you. Spring for better gasoline as it will actually be the best buy in the long run. Be Honest and Be Well.



Saturday, August 25, 2018

DEPRAVED and/or DEPRIVED!


DEPRIVED and/or DEPRAVED

---We may remember the famous line from the musical ‘’WEST SIDE STORY’’ – ‘’He Is DEPRAVED because He Is DEPRIVED!’’ I THINK these words are very true and have weighed heavily on our society for a longtime. And there seems NO LET UP IN SIGHT. It seems to only be getting worse. We can reverse it, but it is going to involve meeting the needs that are still are being deprived to this day.


---Through the work of Abraham Maslow and others we can see that there is a basic human need of being loved and supported. We know that every individual does better when he is appreciated and valued. Despite his/her ability. When these needs are in place and met, the individual usually returns this behavior with positive behavior of his own. He returns affection and security with security and affection.

---When people are deprived of their basic needs of being loved, appreciated and valued…they act in some negative anti-social way that resembles depravity. If your basic needs for love and appreciation are met you will tend to treat others warmly and well with a positive spirit. If you are deprived of these basic needs you are probably looking for an outlet for this negative energy.


CLICK THOUGHTOON!

---POSITIVE ENERGY IS SHARED BY THOSE WHO ARE NOT DEPRIVED of These basic human needs of love, support, being valued and appreciated.

---NEGATIVE ENERGY IS SHARED BY THOSE WHO ARE DEPRIVED of these basic human needs of love, support, being valued and appreciated.

THIS APPLIES TO YOU NO MATTER WHERE YOU MAY FALL IN THE HIERARCHY.

BEING KIND IS A GOOD WAY TO BEGIN REVERSING IT!

Tuesday, August 21, 2018

The ZEN VOLUNTEERs - Paul H.


Praise to the Zen Volunteers of Laguna Honda
Praise Laguna Honda for the opportunity
to speak with those astute people in three shifts throughout the day.
Praise the Volunteers for knowing a little bit about everything
to keep me stimulated.

Praise them for being aware of the self,
As it's the material
That concerns me the most.

Thanks for the consoling influence they have on all of us.
Thanks for their over-concern even when it’s unnecessary
and for knowing when to let it go.

I can’t imagine there being any other place—
outside of an academic setting—
where this would exist.
We all seem cut from the same jib
and that’s a very good place to be.

Many assorted peers, all part of the soup
I drink daily, 
That sustains me and keeps me always wanting more.
I count myself as one of the chosen few
Not in an addicted way
But as in one of great fortune.
They help me to find the sunshine
in a seemingly mundane setting.
In the sometimes chaotic gardens that can be here.

Paul Hendrickson
8/21/18

Sunday, June 24, 2018

Wednesday, June 13, 2018

Tuesday, May 22, 2018

NEW STRATEGY: The RABBIT and the TURTLE!


NEW STRATEGY:
SLOWER than the Rabbit, but
FASTER than the Turtle!

---I think I found the trick to beat the turtle in the race. You have said it is NOT who crosses the finish line first, but the real winner is he/she who finds his/her own pace. I think if I go at a slower pace than the Rabbit and hence not tiring myself out while going faster than the Turtle to beat him/her! Eureka...I might win that race.

---My pace is somewhere between the rabbit and the turtle. In my younger days I did battle with those two many times. At times I must admit...the rabbit and turtle were unrecognizable. The rabbit could be a tiger and the turtle could be a rattler. My fear of my opponents could make the race and my pace a whole different animal. I didn't know where I was in the pace department. The good news is that I learned my lessons and NOW pick and choose better. I make more mature decisions. Things are less fear based and more in the realm of reality.

---I, finally, REDEFINED WINNING! I understand what is meant by, ''the winner is the one who finds his/her own pace.'' Be Well!



 RIVALRY: Sibling or Otherwise


---Many find themselves competing and comparing themselves to siblings and/or someone else who seemingly outdoes them at every turn. Him or her gets more notice for his abilities than you do. You discover that there exists a resentment toward this other person that exposes a jealousy you harbor toward him/her for the abilities he has.

---The real winning is NOT who crosses the finish line first. It comes to whomever finds his own pace that causes him/her to perform at his optimum.


CLICK THOUGHTOON!

---This calls into question the difference between BEING the best OR DOING your best. If the main concern is about being the best, you can see a more roller coaster ride is in store for your life. If your life is about doing your best, you can see how much, more consistent things will most likely be. Be Well.

Thursday, April 26, 2018

OPEN LETTER TO MY BROTHER!


Hi Peter,


CLICK THOUGHTOON!

---Everyone in this hospital and I would say that everyone I met hitchhiking and everyone in general are doing exactly what you and I  have been doing in our own way. We and they are searching to have a better relationship with ourselves. Anyone who found something that they truly liked + enjoyed and were working at it, seemed to have a leg up on the rest. There are some, but NOT a whole lot of people that have found it (their passion) at a young age.

---I was in Charlotte, NC  (1981) saying to God (this is something I sometimes did back then,) if you grow my fingers, I'll build a Church for you. I had a real revelation at this time. ''Healing doesn't come in growing fingers or anything like that. It comes in accepting yourself as you are, so-called faults and all.'' This really changed things around for me. Instead trying to be different than who I am, BE WHO I AM. And, when push comes to shove...this is the best that I can be. MYSELF! And, that is okay! My understanding of who and what God is matured in a big way, also.

---I found that that is basically why people appear so screwed up at times. It is because people really don't know that they are good enough. They don't know that it's alright to be themselves. They end up competing and comparing themselves to each other to find this out. They really don't accept themselves as they are. They end up seeing if they measure up to their neighbor. They think that they need fingers (or whatever happens to be their hang up) to complete who they are. I didn't and they don't! (It is the thinking that these things are necessary,) that is the problem! When one loves and accepts oneself, one never thinks of harming others.

---And, for those who act like they think they are better than other people (superior,) they are just compensating for feelings of inferiority inside. This is basically the boat we are all in. Be Well!