Saturday, September 21, 2019


HUMAN NEEDs Being Met!

---If we build a bridge, a building or a structure with shoddy materials and workmanship, eventually, it will come crashing down around itself. If anything is built without the proper foundation to withstand ALL that life will hurl at him or her...we will find ourselves in the same boat. I don’t think most folks realize the importance of being appreciated, being valued, loved, supported, cared for, being kind, etc. Without these BASIC HUMAN NEEDs being met, their lives are built with the same shoddy materials that will make lives (themselves) fall apart, eventually. These HUMAN NEEDs are the building blocks of human life. These are very, very necessary.
---To quote JK Rowling, the author of the ‘’Harry Potter Series,’’ rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life,’’ Before writing the Harry Potter Books, she wasn’t doing the kinds of things that helped get her needs met. That’s the boat that many of us are in. Many folks don’t realize that a life without the key elements of being valued, being appreciated, being supported, etc...are like building a structure or a bridge with shoddy material and/or workmanship that won’t be able to withstand the weight and endure all the things the structure itself will go through during its’ existence.  Really, it can’t do anything, BUT come crashing down around itself. A skyscraper built on sand, bridge abutments built in quicksand...will yield the same results.
---The recipe of life has a healthy portion of the ingredients of love, support, being valued, being appreciated and being kind in it. There is NO scrimping on the materials (ingredients or building blocks) necessary to create a good, solid individual able to withstand all that life throws at him or her. Any scrimping at any time will jeopardize the project AND will hasten the whole thing to fall apart. Each time he/she interacts with love, being valued and being appreciated. In other words – All the Right Stuff. (That ‘Right Stuff’ includes ALL the construction equipment, too.) The foundation ITSELF is strengthened and becomes more solid and as strong as it needs to be. Everything works better that way. Herein lies the rub - If these needs are not met...and met convincingly, then we are usually faced with an individual who is seeking to get these needs met. And, those things he gets himself addicted to as a substitute to these human needs being met, are sitting right-around-the-corner. We DON’T want to go down that road, again. We make sure we learn to accurately identify our real needs more clearly AND we now know how to get our needs met on a regular basis. We are ready to upgrade our lives in ways that benefit all we do and we find that we are very glad that we did. Be Well.

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Saturday, May 18, 2019


''We ALL Love One Another; We're Just Working Out The Details''


---What do I mean when I say this? As a matter of fact I tell folks that this is my personal philosophy. It seems that it isn't as obvious to others as I thought.

---We must break it down a bit, first. We ALL love one another. That in itself seems ludicrous. I can give a list of people that I don't love...or CAN I? Let's go into this slowly. People usually give me a quick list of different world leaders who were the cause of much suffering, death + destruction. How can I possibly love them. They can be outraged at me for even suggesting that.

---I have to break it down a bit further. LOVE is treated as a FACT; NOT a FEELING! LOVE exists whether we feel it or not. Whether anyone feels it or not. LOVE is always present...potentially. To test this, be truly loving and kind in a situation and watch people respond to that. Or, when there is a cut or broken bone and it's allowed to heal after being set properly, it will. Doesn't the way we feel about how folks generally BEHAVE govern how we feel about the people themselves. We'd feel differently if instead of doing things that promote suffering, death and destruction...people fed all the folks that are hungry AND helped people get things they need while footing the bill in most cases. If folks behaved in a way that spread kindness and happiness, we would think very differently about things.  Well, that really is potentially there all-the-time! We just have to act on it.

---Unfortunately, most people BEHAVE in a way that reflects their ATTITUDE and hence, their VALUES - which then tend toward being self-oriented and greedy. People who act this way tend to be fearful of NOT having enough for themselves - hence are self-oriented and greedy. If they were able to see beyond their fears, they would see that having values of being kind to one another and brother + sister helping each other, because we are all in this together...gets more done and hence provides enough for all. Those crying out, ''what about me?'' haven't learned to be team players...yet! BUT, THEY CAN!

---A big problem that I see is this; folks for the most part are waiting to be loved and are not loving. They may think that they are, but self-concern and greed with saving face, runs the show. They are, usually, busy TRYING to get what they think their needs + preferences are, met. But, their method really is, usually self-concern and greed. This is ALL based on FEAR!


---Because of this backwards approach (if you will,) folks end up waiting to be loved instead of being loving. And, when they do something loving or kind, they have some type of self-concern tied to it. I see this as being the real problem...but, that is, then, hence its solution.

---We must be TRULY loving for this process to work. If we wait around to be loved, FIRST and are NOT being loving –
 we then have the process backwards. If we wait to feel love first, we just MAY wait forever (a long, long time.) You will wait as long as it takes for you to learn that it works the other way. AND...THAT IS WHAT MOST OF US ARE DOING!


---''To FEEL LOVE, YOU MUST BE LOVING.'' The other way doesn't work. It is like waiting to be perfect before you act. It is one thing to get your act together, but waiting to be perfect FIRST will not work. Too many semantics and interpretations to concern yourself with before you can declare that that has indeed happened AND you are now perfect. (Ask your mother, wife or sister to weigh-in on the subject...if you are getting too full of yourself.) Husbands, in general, if smart...won't answer that or just will not truthfully know what you're talking about.

---The second half of that statement - working out the details...comes into play in the fact that many, many have still got it BACKWARDs and COMPLAIN  so much and so loudly and wonder why it doesn't work? Some folks have a lot invested in its being the other (wrong) way AND they belligerently insist that it does indeed work the other (wrong) way...even when they may NOT realize what it is that they are really doing. 


---Folks go to war over the fact that they have this backwards...instead of simply realizing that they must love first. Many relationships go sour, because of faulty logic. A lot of time is spent on trying to see eye-to-eye before love is even considered. Then the next thing you know it becomes an eye-for-an-eye! That, once again is CONDITIONAL LOVE and NOT UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. Instead of being love only those that see things as you do. The DETAILS are KILLING US in this way.


Love has to be treated as a FACT...NOT JUST A FEELING. Act accordingly. 
Be Well.

The saying now changes to:
''We ALL Love One Another; we are simply + gently working out the details''

Friday, April 12, 2019


This Is NOT An Original Story...I Just Remade It -